What To Do When You Fall in Love With a Married Man?

What To Do When You Fall in Love With a Married Man?
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Emotional affairs with a married man can be fatally risky and painful. If you are deeply in love with someone who lied to you about being married or you ended up falling for him regardless of his marital status, you have invited in a long list of troubles. Is it okay to date a married man and can you get him to commit to you? Or should you rather avoid falling in love with a married man?

Here are 7 things and tips we explore to help you discover some possible reasons why it's best to avoid being involved in a relationship with a married man:

1. Rethink if you can really trust him

Falling in love with a married can be a difficult experience especially if he lied to you about marriage. If you are deeply involved with a married man emotionally, it's natural to be heartbroken and dejected. Are you the only one he is with? Is his wife aware? Is he lying about the problems with his wife? Has he been manipulative? Trust is a major factor in relationships and in complicated situations like that you are walking on eggshells. Find out if he has been really honest with you or there are secrets he still hasn't revealed.

2. Stop being his sidekick

It must have been a painful ordeal for you to confront him about your expectations and demands. If you were seeking a long-term commitment and he has cut you off time and again, he is definitely up to no good. If he lied to you about getting married, you were played for a fool. You can't continue being his doormat, ready to serve him at his beck and call. If he has been hiding his marital status and you were exposed to the truth out of the blue, you must take a stand for yourself. Can you count on him to bring you out of the mess? Do you really want to be the 'other woman' or the home wrecker in this case? What is the end goal you expect from his relationship you share with this married man?

3. Have an honest discussion about the future

Gather your thoughts and present them carefully. If you fear his reaction and keep waiting for him to straighten up, you'll only block your blessings. Clarify your current stand to him. Does he see a future with you? Is he ready to make a choice between his wife and you? If he has kids, how does he plan to make a compromise if he chooses you? Breaking a marriage and settling into another is not an easy affair. There are too many variables involved and even if he promises to separate from his wife, you should know that this won't be a cakewalk.

4. Introspect if you really want to be the home wrecker

It's actually advisable to take a quick exit out of his life and be with someone genuine and ready to take a firm stand for you. If this married man could not be faithful to his wife, rest assured you won't be spared of the horror either. If he can muster the courage to cheat on his legally wedded wife, could you guarantee his commitment towards you ever? It's not a great feeling to be someone's second priority. He does have responsibilities in marriage and you'll always remain the second option and who knows, maybe the last? Of course sex may be great and you love his company but is that reason enough to invite troubles in your life?

5. Check if you are really compatible with him

Does he really love you? Think again. If he did, he would have divorced his wife and settled down with you wasting no time disrespecting or devaluing your investment of time and energy. What does love even mean to you or do you feel that sex defines the longevity of the relationship? When lust and attraction fades and you are no longer 'young and beautiful', would he still be there for you? If this married guy did love you, he would protect your honor and not leave you hanging amidst such uncertainties. If physical intimacy has caused the attachment, there is typically no assurance that

6. Keep your options open

You are a free bird in this case and in no way answerable to him. Have a life of your own and never miss out on opportunities when they knock at your door. Handling relationships are tricky but you must secure your personal life first. Meet new people and expand your social circle if you like it. If you prefer solitude, inculcate hobbies and enrich your knowledge about things that will support your career goals. Never ever compromise unless the other person is ready to move mountains for you. You can't keep waiting around endlessly for someone who sneaks out with you and shows no courage to flaunt you to the world with pride.

7. Give him an ultimatum

If you are a sensitive woman, it must have been a traumatic situation. If you respect and love yourself enough, you should be able to speak up. You need to distress yourself and take care of your mental well-being because relationships do take a toll on your overall health. Ask for concrete answers so that you don't drag yourself around him aimlessly. There are higher chances of him dumping you over his wife, to be honest. Trust the tangible results. Ask him to settle the matter at the quickest and let him know your final call in case he fails to stand by his words by the deadline.

Anouk Remini

Anouk Remini

Relationship Expert

I have spent over 15 years helping men and women find their soulmates, improve their relationships and become happier in love.

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